Showing posts with label Autobiography. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Autobiography. Show all posts

Sunday, April 9, 2017

The End of Normal: A Wife's Anguish, A Widow's New Life, by Stephanie Madoff Mack

Stephanie Madoff Mack (she changed her name to Mack after Bernie Madoff went to jail) writes 272 pages about how she refuses to be a victim of Bernie Madoff, her father-in-all. That would be something to be proud of if she didn't spend much of her book writing about how much she has been victimized by Madoff, his wife, Ruth, and every other adult member of the Madoff family.

Mack's husband committed suicide, devastated at the constant attacks on his family and him. It was a tragedy, but Mack's narrative about closure is shockingly tone deaf. After having him cremated, Mack, who is not Jewish, divided up his ashes into little boxes which she offers to his Jewish ex-wife for their children to dispose of, and to his Jewish brother. When they tell her they want none of it, she makes zero effort to understand why not. She seems to have forgotten, or never bothered to learn, that Jewish people, even non-observant ones, do not like cremation, and certainly don't like the idea of little packages of ashes being doled out like candy.

To her credit, Mack does write a competent book about her family and its reaction to the Madoff scandal as it unfolds. Unfortunately, she devotes way too much of the book to discussing her own anger, and her own need for revenge, including devoting many pages to discussing the multiple letters she sent to Ruth and Bernie Madoff scolding them, blaming them, and informing them that she was cutting them out of her life and her children's lives. It's all too much drama and venom for this reader.

* Print Length: 272 pages
* Publisher: Plume; 1 edition (October 20, 2011)
* Publication Date: October 20, 2011
* Sold by: Penguin Group (USA) LLC

Monday, March 20, 2017

When We Rise, My Life in the Movement , By Cleve Jones,* Reviewed by Nicholas F. Benton**


Cleve Jones is the author of the current best-selling book, When We Rise, My Life in the Movement (New York, Hachette Books, 2016) that formed the basis for the recent TV mini-series by the same name on ABC. This memoir of his life in the gay movement is unique for the first-person, eye-witness, up close and personal accounts it provides by a close associate of San Francisco's legendary gay icon Harvey Milk. It offers spellbinding descriptions of Milk's influence, his horrific assassination in November 1978, and of Jones' growing role in the LGBT movement since.

Jones, who invented the idea for the Names Quilts response to the AIDS crisis in the 1980s that brought home the personal dimension of the epidemic, had a major role as a consultant in the making of the 2008 Academy Award winning film, Milk, when he parlayed his friendships with its screenwriter Justin Lance Black and producer Gus Van Sant into an extraordinary portrayal of Milk's career. Sean Penn won an Academy Award for his portrayal of Milk, Emile Hirsch portrayed Jones, who approved of the choice (“except that I am taller,” he wrote), and Black won an Oscar for his script.

In fact, Jones was sitting with Black at the February 2009 Academy Awards ceremony when Black won the Oscar and delivered an acceptance speech that was a first of its kind. Speaking openly of being gay, himself, Black said in words that was an amazing affirmation to millions watching on TV, “If Harvey Milk had not been taken away from us 30 years ago, I think he'd want me to say to all the gay and lesbian kids out there who have been told that they are less by their churches, by the government, or by their families that you are beautiful, wonderful creatures of value and that no matter what anyone tells you, God does love you and that very soon, I promise you, you will have equal rights federally, across this great nation of ours.”

Jones wrote that “I watched from my seat and could not stop crying,” just like myself, and millions of other Americans, I am certain, including LGBT persons of all ages, their loving families, friends and supporters. It marked after 31 years a national redemption for the murder of Milk and a prescient forecast of the U.S. Supreme Court ruling that confirmed that the equal protection under the law guarantee of the U.S. Constitution does, indeed, extend to LGBT persons, including to their right to marry, on June 25, 2015, another day I could not stop crying.

In Jones' memoir, he writes about how the young, post-Stonewall gay movement
“saved my life, twice:” first, in 1971, “as a frightened teenager, when I learned of the gay liberation movement and flushed down the pills I had hoarded to end my life,” and again in 1994 “when I was dying of AIDS,” when “the movement stormed the Food and Drug Administration, confronted the pharmaceutical industry's greed, and exposed the shameful lack of government response” leading to a life-saving treatment regimen for the epidemic that had killed 600,000 other mostly gay males in the U.S. The LGBT movement, he wrote, “saved my life and gave it purpose and connected me to other people who also sought love and purpose in their lives.”

But Jones' eyewitness to the LGBT movement was not without plenty of pain, including the Milk assassination and the AIDS epidemic. His vivid and penetrating recollections of these experiences and so much more make his book one of the more important contributions to the growing library of indispensable LGBT literary works.

I don't recall, but I have a strong sense that I met the young Jones, who escaped his family to show up as a teenager in San Francisco in 1972. I was still in the midst of my most energetic gay activism at that same time. I co-founded the Berkeley, Calif., chapter of the Gay Liberation Front and was a major contributor to the Berkeley Barb and Gay Sunshine counterculture newspapers. Jones wrote, “In those days, one could probably count the number of self-described 'gay rights activists' on the fingers of two hands.” Well, one of those fingers belonged to me.

He was 18 then, and I about 10 years older, and we traveled in the same neighborhoods of downtown San Francisco then, from Market Street, to the Tenderloin to Polk Street, from the front of Flagg Brothers and the lunch counter at Woolworth's, to Ritch Street and Bob's Burgers.

He was known as the “class sissy” in Phoenix before coming to San Francisco, and I was described as one among “offbeat liberation fairies” by the openly-gay San Francisco Chronicle Randy Shilts in his book, The Mayor of Castro Street, the Life and Times of Harvey Milk (1982), because my politics was more radical than simply a call for equality.

Fast forward to 1977, as the ABC mini-series did, Jones returned after long periods of travel, to volunteer for the first Milk campaign running for the San Francisco Supervisors from a particular district (encompassing the Castro and Haight), Milk's first and only electoral victory.

Jones' recollections of that campaign and the subsequent incredibly politically-dense period that followed are the most compelling part of his book, from the demonstrations and riots all the way to a vivid, stomach-churning description of the slain Milk's body as it lay for hours on his City Hall office floor.

Jones' memoir skips over other important years, namely 1983-1984, when controversies over how to react to the massive and horrible deaths from AIDS that claimed so many gay men before anything like a cure was found. The pain and panic was too great, perhaps, although Shilts, in his And the Band Played On: Politics, People and the AIDS Epidemic chronicle of the AIDS epidemic published in 1987, wrote that Jones had reluctantly aligned with those in the San Francisco gay leadership who called for the closing of the bathhouses.

By Jones' own account, he seldom shied away from taking strong and controversial positions in the often-contentious gay movement. To this day, he remains on his feet, so to speak, to present one more gift to his catalogs of enormous contributions to the movement, his new memoir. We can expect that much more is still to come.


Print Length: 305 pages
Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0316315435
Publisher: Hachette Books (November 29, 2016)
Publication Date: November 29, 2016
Sold by: Hachette Book Group

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** Nicholas F. Benton is the owner and editor of The Falls Church News Press. He is also the author of
Extraordinary Hearts: Reclaiming Gay Sensibility's Central Role in the Progress of Civilization



Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Nobody's Girl, A Memoir of Lost Innocence, Modern-Day Slavery and Transformation, by Barbara Amaya

Barbara Amaya was, literally, nobody's girl. Raised in the 1960s in Fairfax, Virginia by a father who worked at the Pentagon, and a stay-at-home, alcoholic mother, Amaya ran away to D.C. at 12 to escape her father's sexual abuse. After finding "refuge" with a hippy couple, she was soon selling her body on the streets of D.C. At 13, she was "sold" to a New York City pimp named Moses.

For the next five or so years, Amaya's life was a horror show of filthy needles, arrests, disgusting johns, and vicious beatings from her pimp. Heroin was her only source of solace. After several failed attempts to detox and to reunite with her dysfunctional family, Amaya finally pulled herself out of the nightmare.

During a short-lived marriage, Amaya had a baby girl. Although she succeeded in getting a good job with the federal government, it didn't last. When her many juvenile arrests for prostitution and drugs under different names came to light in a routine background check, she lost her job. Burdened by the shame she felt about her past, Amaya became increasingly agoraphobic, and, eventually, extremely ill. Only after she realized she had been a victim of human trafficking, did she recover and find even more of her amazing strength.

Barbara Amaya's story of survival and escape from sexual slavery is extraordinary. She not only survived the horrors of human trafficking, the unfairness of victim-blaming, and the outrage of having her juvenile arrest record used against her, she also survived a childhood where she was abandoned by those that should have protected her. She has now become one of the leading voices warning against the growing danger of human trafficking.

Although the U.S. and other western industrialized nations are cracking down on it, there is no sign that human trafficking is stopping, or even ebbing, in the near future. Young men and women, including children, from both the developed and the developing world are being snared by traffickers. Sexual slavery exists as much today as it did 40 years ago, when Amaya became one of its victims. Today, however, Amaya is no longer "nobody's girl." She is, instead, the voice of everyone's girl and boy. Her book must become required reading for parents, lawmakers, law enforcement agencies, and schools everywhere.

(In return for an honest review, I received an advance copy from the publisher via NetGalley.)

Publisher: Animal Media Group LLC; 1st edition (October 26, 2015)

(Photo of Barbara Amaya)

Sunday, September 11, 2016

Under the Same Sky: From Starvation in North Korea to Salvation in America, by Joseph Kim

You are five years old and your parents and sister love you and spoil you. You love going to school and playing with your friends. Your mother cooks your favorite foods and your father creates toys for you and your friends.

Then one day, without warning, the food gets scarcer and scarcer. There are no more toys, and you miss school in order to scrounge for food. A vast and dismal landscape of orphaned children, gangs of thugs, and dead bodies replaces the warm and happy landscape that you knew.

Is this the plot of a young adult's dystopian novel? It could be. Instead, it is the story of Joseph Kim, a child of North Korea, who lost his family and was homeless at 11 years old due to the famous famine of the 1990s and the brutal uncaring Kim dynasties. Joseph kept alive the only way possible for him, by begging, stealing, working in dangerous coal mines, fighting and joining gangs.

At thirteen, completely alone, dressed in rags and starving, he crossed into China, not caring if the Border Guards saw him. Still considering himself a thief, he learned that something called "churches" and "Christians" would give him food and money. Eventually, an American charity, "Liberty in North Korea (LiNK)," found him and brought him to the United States. You may have watched his TED Talk from Scotland or read a newspaper article about. Neither conveys the horror that a whole generation of North Korean children faced when their parents could no longer feed them and their government abandoned them. The true magnitude of the famine is unknown due to lack of information. Some reports estimate the death toll at 2 million.

This is not a brutal future depicted in a science fiction book, this is North Korea today. Joseph Kim survived in ways that would have destroyed most of us. His story deserves to be read.

Print Length: 293 pages
Publisher: Mariner Books (June 2, 2015)
Publication Date: June 2, 2015
Sold by: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt

A Thousand Miles to Freedom: My Escape from North Korea, by Eunsun Kim

Eunsun Kim is not even thirty years old, but:
1. She has fled two countries, North Korea and China;
2. She was forced to leave school at 11 and spend nine years trying to survive, most of the time without sufficient food and without a real home;
3. She watched her father, grandparents and neighbors die of starvation;
4. She was sold by a human trafficker, along with her mother and sister, to an abusive family in rural China;
5. In order to reach South Korea, she and her mother were smuggled into Mongolia and had to cross the Gobi Desert at night;
6. She and her mother were forced to abandon her baby brother in China; and
7. She spent many months being interrogated by South Korean intelligence in order to prove she was not a North Korean spy.

This book is one of a growing number that exposes the true horrors of the great famine that killed over a million North Koreans in the 1990s and the brutal conditions that still exist in that country. Despite all of the above, and worse, Eunsun's love of her homeland and her hope for a free, unified Korea remains, as does her commitment to try and help children who are experiencing devastation similar to what she endured. After reading her book, the common complaints of the West seem so unimportant. This book should be required reading in every high school.


Hardcover: 240 pages
Publisher: St. Martin's Press (July 21, 2015)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1250064643
ISBN-13: 978-1250064646

Friday, September 2, 2016

In Order to Live: A North Korean Girl's Journey to Freedom, by Yeonmi Park

Yeonmi Park is a human rights activist who escaped, at the age of 13, from North Korea to China in order to survive. A victim of the Kim Dynasty's famine, Park was trafficked in China, along with her mother. Her memoir, "In Order to Live," pulls no punches. She was born at a time when the North Korean government was losing its subsidies from Russia as communism collapsed. While her family lived well for a time due to her parents black market trading, eventually that ended when her father was thrown in a labor camp. His health was completely broken there, and he was unable to care for his family when he managed to get out early.

When Park and her mother were smuggled into China, her mother was raped by the human traffickers, and Park, at 13, was forced to become the mistress of another trafficker. After escaping to South Korea with the help of Christian missionaries, Park fought against the growing anti-North Korean defector sentiment in South Korea, against her own shame at what she was forced to do to survive, and against her own lack of education.

She is a remarkable young woman, so remarkable the North Korean regime has retaliated against her for exposing the true horrors in that concentration camp of a nation. Park's growing awareness of the need for critical thinking, as opposed to brainwashed regurgitation of another person's or regime's ideas, is truly awe inspiring. Her recognition that there is no "I" in North Korea, only "we," is something that individuals who have escaped cults have long understand. This is one of the first times that a survivor of North Korea has drawn that exact comparison. We will be hearing much more from Park. She is only in her early 20s, and she has already sent a repressive regime into apoplexy- imagine what else she has in store for this world. Five stars.

Print Length: 290 pages
Publisher: Penguin Press (September 29, 2015)
Publication Date: September 29, 2015
Sold by: Penguin Group (USA) LLC